Christ set the perfect example on how to treat our spouses when, after his resurrection, He appeared first to Mary Magdalene in the garden before His tomb. It appears that having succeeded in the ultimate achievement, conquering death, His first thoughts were to comfort her. Many have suggested that Mary was Jesus’ wife. Certainly the scriptures seem to suggest this was the case though I will not be so bold as to claim it fact. The fact that he appeared first to her before all others is, however, very compelling.
I find The following verses from John chapter twenty are some of the most moving in all of scripture. Mary, having gone to the tomb to care for the body of the Lord, finds it empty:
But Mary stood without at the sepulchre weeping: and as she wept, she stooped down, and looked into the sepulchre,
And seeth two aangels in white sitting, the one at the head, and the other at the feet, where the body of Jesus had lain.
And they say unto her, Woman, why weepest thou? She saith unto them, Because they have taken away my Lord, and I know not where they have laid him.
And when she had thus said, she turned herself back, and saw Jesus standing, and knew not that it was Jesus.
Jesus saith unto her, Woman, why weepest thou? whom seekest thou? She, supposing him to be the gardener, saith unto him, Sir, if thou have borne him hence, tell me where thou hast laid him, and I will take him away.
Jesus saith unto her, Mary. She turned herself, and saith unto him, Rabboni; which is to say, Master.
Jesus saith unto her, Touch me not; for I am not yet ascended to my Father: but go to my brethren, and say unto them, I ascend unto my Father, and your Father; and to my God, and your God.
John 20: 11-17
It was to the distraught Mary that he first appeared after His resurrection. I am sure it pained Him not to embrace her. He could have gone first to his grieving mother, or to the apostles. Indeed, we learn that he had not even gone to his Father at whose command he had atoned for the sins of all. It seems he thought first of her needs before all others. Should we not do likewise?